So much of our energy can be tied up in things we can’t control. Other people’s choices. The future. The past. Even how we’re perceived.
The trouble is, when we live mostly in those places, we can feel stretched thin, anxious, or weighed down. It’s like trying to carry a load that was never really ours to hold.
– What I can control → my actions, choices, words, how I respond.
– What I can influence → people around me, my workplace, my community.
– What I’m concerned about → everything else: world events, the past or future, other people’s decisions.
It’s not that the outer circles don’t matter, they do. But if we put most of our attention there, we get stuck in worry, putting the body and our nervous system into fight or flight. But if we bring our focus back to what’s here, in our hands, life begins to shift.
What happens when we live within our circle of control instead of focusing on those other areas?
When we live inside our circle of control, we come back to the present moment.
We choose how to respond rather than react.
We take care of our body, our mind, our breath.
We create small rituals of kindness and grounding that ripple outwards.
This is where life starts to feel lighter, more possible, more alive. In essence, we start to regulate our nervous system bringing you back to the present for a calmer, happier you.
This is the heart of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, helping us move away from what we can’t control and reconnecting with the present moment.
When we’re caught in cycles of worry, stress, or overthinking, the brain tends to dwell on the past or project into the future. Hypnotherapy helps to gently interrupt these patterns. By shifting our focus, it creates space to:
– Live in the present moment → noticing what’s real, here and now.
– Make better decisions → responding with clarity rather than being hijacked by fear or habit.
– Feel happier and lighter → by retraining the mind to look for what’s going well and what’s possible.
Over time, this process helps us to build resilience, to feel more in control of our lives, and to experience a deeper sense of calm and happiness. Bringing regulation to your nervous system and moving you away from those fight or flight responses.
You don’t have to do it all at once. You don’t have to fix the whole world.
When you let go of what you can’t control, and gently begin to live in what you can, something shifts. You find yourself here, now, breathing, choosing, moving forward in small but powerful ways.
If you’re feeling caught in worry or stretched thin, I’d love to help you reconnect with that steadier place. Through Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, we can create a space together where you can begin to live more fully in your circle of control.
You can find available sessions at http://www.garethamos.com or reach me directly on 07990 586 599.
Take a breath. Take a moment. You deserve it.
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